I have just finished listening to some free coach training Andrea J Lee is rolling out. On today’s class she spoke of a really simply coaching tool that is so simple it makes it powerful beyond measure.
I thought it would be good for you to use, either personally or with your clients.
The tool is called Transferring Excellence
It is used for clients who are really stuck or are self sabotaging or simply just not taking the actions that will lead them to their hearts desire.
Years ago I braved a chilly grey winters afternoon and went to see my little four year old nephew play his first game of soccer.
Chaos reined on the pitch and we laughed until we cried as these little guys ran in the opposite direction every time the ball came near them and they kicked a lot but rarely ever connected with the ball.
But then the moment of triumph came with much cheering and adulation as he scored his first goal. Only trouble was, he scored it in the opposing teams goal! It didn’t matter because he had at least figured out the purpose of the game, he just needed to transfer the skills he had to his own teams goal post.
So if you are struggling to kick goals at the right goal posts, the transferring excellence tool says you simply need to transfer your skills and point them at the right goal post.
I know myself that I would get an Oscar for some of the theatrics I’ve conjured up over the years to stop myself moving forward due to fear or overwhelm or any of the things that tend to get in the way of our greatness.
I think I could honestly say that every single client I’ve ever encountered has, at some time, self sabotaged their dreams by kicking the ball toward the wrong goal post. The good thing is that they have been wise enough to have me there to turn them around and get them focused on the right actions.
The transferring excellence tool is great for overcoming your “not good enough” drama.
You simply need to recognise the excellent qualities you are invoking to be “not so good” and positively apply them to a dysfunctional area of your life. You already excelling at these qualities, just simply transfer them to another project or action.
The tool simply asks you to look at any aspect of your life where you are being excellent.
In that space of excellence you will have created strong boundaries to give yourself enough time and energy to complete this task. A sign of excellence in any endeavour (positive or negative) is that you will be making progress or have achieved ongoing satisfaction.
If you are in a space of not achieving what you really want, YOU ARE ALREADY EXCELLENT!
You are simply using the right skills to do the wrong things.
Everyone gets the same 24 hours each day
it is how they use them that makes the difference
So how can you use your 24 hours more effectively?
Take a look now at the things you do really well – those things that no matter what is going on around you, you still not only want to, but can achieve the task with very little duress.
Hell, you can even use the fact that you are really good at self sabotage as the example for this exercise. Self sabotteurs have excellent resilience skills and form habits really easily. So in being resilient and having an ability to form habits, you already have what it takes to grow a successful business.
A clue here will be in the things you value the most.
So if you value family highly, you will have strong boundaries around the way your family works. If you have strong values on creativity, you will be regularly allocating the right amounts of time and energy to actually creating things. If you have strong values on the environment, you will have created a house like I am living in right now, that is off the grid, but if you don’t get excellent at putting firewood in the stove, you can’t cook or get hot water.
At present after selling up my life and moving in such a short space of time I totally overwhelmed myself and now need a lot of self care and quiet to bring myself back to “normal”. I am struggling to even write a basic email and my brain is so tired I am finding I can’t even write basic sentences.
But because my value is so high on staying in relationship with my people, I find I can still write short newsletter items. Over time, I have developed excellence in that area and now, even under duress, I can still do it with ease. All I need is a topic to get me going and I have found over time that listening to other inspiring coaches helps me find topics.
These are all examples of high focus on an area of excellence.
See I told you it was easy, in fact this is seriously NOT rocket science.
So once you establish where you have strong boundaries set, or where you get things done well, and again that could be a negative thing you are doing well …. like not getting out of bed in the morning.
Take a look at how you achieve that excellence.
For instance in the family example, people with strong family values have reserves of food in their freezer. They just do! So what can you learn from the ability to batch cook items and freeze them off. Well in business, maybe you “batch cook” a series of newsletters so you don’t have to come up with new topics each month. You simply write more than you need on a topic you love.
So say for instance you have written a 1,500 word article and you only need 1,000 words. Cut out the 500 words and keep them stored up for a time when you are busy and just need to reach in and retrieve the excess words to cook up a quick blog post or newsletter item. Or you could “batch cook” dropping off flyers at cafes and met a friend for a beverage of choice while you do it.
How Can You Use This Tool?
Using this example, list the positive traits you have developed in one area, then figure out how you could transfer the excellence you have developed, to the project or actions you are not taking to make your business dreams come true – or whatever you are struggling to achieve.
Many find just recognising an area of excellence and realising you are excellent at something, helps them to move to the next level.
So often we beat ourselves up. That’s why I love this tool because it moves us forward by giving ourselves a pat on the back and allowing us to realise if we can do one thing to the power of excellence, then we can surely transfer the energy and actions to the project that isn’t doing so well.
Start applying your newly recognised super powers to the right goals.
Of course this tool begs to be used with your own clients.
Perhaps your clients are failing to follow the dietary tips you give them and are eating way too many snacks. Simply get them to figure out where the excellence is in these actions. For instance, they are probably very strong minded, they are determined, they are single minded. Then ask them how they could transfer those characteristics from the negative to the positive.
But for me right now, I’m transferring my excellence in being at a computer screen all day, over to the excellence in loading firewood into the wheel barrow and bringing it down from the shed ……… otherwise things are going to get seriously UN-excellent around here very quickly!