Did you know that what you’ve been doing in the past 90 days is what will shape the next six months?
I’m currently sitting in the United Lounge at Los Angeles airport – my 90 Day tourist visa is up! Once Uncle Sam is done with you, there is nothing to do but ride that silver bird back to the wide brown land. The jolt back to reality is going to be huge as the wheels hit the tarmac at Kingsford Smith Sydney in sixteen hours time.
To be honest that whole Rodeo Drive things just leaves me cold. I wandered there yesterday in search of food and was totally bemused by people in the omni-present tourist buses going up and down taking pictures of stores they couldn’t afford to shop in. The whole celebrity things is a bit lost on me. although I did get to walk through the lobby of the “Pretty Woman” hotel and saw the balcony Julia Roberts sat on threatening to tobble over as the scared of heights Richard Gere just about had kittens. Guess I’m as bad as the happy snappers 🙂
Also drove through Hollywood and Vine where the man walks across the road shouting “Welcome to Hollywood! What’s your dream?”
Our dreams are funny things. The more action we put into each set of 90 days we get gifted – the closer our dreams get to reality. The actions we don’t take atrophy our dreams.
During my last two days in LA, I had the pleasure to be gifted a one on one session with vocal coach Roger Love. I’d never dreamed this little kiwi could be tutored by someone who has worked with some big names from downunder like INXS, Hanson, Missy Higgins plus all the greats from USA music and film. As I sat in his office surrounded by his accolades and framed platinum CD’s – well it was all a bit surreal.
The only reason it happened was because I took a risk that as yet hasn’t fully paid off. But being around people who work with people who follow their dreams takes you to a new level even before you get started.
As you step up to the plate and you have to be prepared to hear the truth and be prepared to listen.
I knew as I took the honest feedback about my voice and the way I speak that all those who stood in the same spot in his office had heard similar news delivered, because we rarely consider our voice.
Doesn’t matter who you are, you still have things to learn about your trade. After taking a huge piece of feedback on an earlier teleclass with Roger, I’ve had a couple of other things added to my voice improvements list: “the high squeaky hinge”, “not filling the room enough”, “speaking too quietly”, “not dropping my jaw”, “tongue too high” ….. crikey it’s little wonder I have so much trouble ordering take out in the USA! It’s not until you get out of your comfort zone or your own environment for challenges you never knew you had, to start appearing.
Then as we stepped over to the piano Roger reminded me that anything shared is done with love – pun intended I’m sure 🙂 My response was – “let me have all the feedback, don’t meter it, just tell me where I can improve”.
That thirst for feedback has been my friend over the years. Sure it hurts and cuts like a knife when you first hear it, but as soon as you start to work on the problem, it feels like progress is being made.
Most never progress because they can’t take the “negative” feedback. They want everything wrapped in cotton wool, they want it watered down, they want it so politically correct that the truth gets lost in the memory foam wrapper.
I really encourage you to be up for feedback and up to take on new information in your own business and personal ambition.
You see the thing that is our greatest enemy is what we don’t know, we don’t know.
The confidence and courage that comes from knowing you have at least one small part of what you need to learn is taken care of, well it automatically brings you to a new place.
Anyone who lives from a place of higher ambition, will always be seeking new knowledge, new feedback and new ways of doing things because they are desperate to find all those things they don’t know and start to work on correcting them.
I’ve had some wonderful conversations with the fabulous Dean Frenkel, the hormonics master, about the theory of the voice. I knew it was important, but I didn’t realise how important our voice is until I attended World’s Greatest Speaker Training.
It was amusing and alarming all at the same time to hear Brendon Burchard tell us how he met Roger Love. After a very grueling schedule, Brendon was standing in the carpark at one of his mega events, hundreds of red cordial filled fans screaming for more, still with a couple of days left to present and NO voice. Roger was able to give him enough exercises in the carpark to enable him to go back on stage and present.
But as Roger warned us, its not ideal to get your voice into this type of situation.
Of course we never put the work in before hand, because we don’t know what we don’t know. So Roger inevitably gets the emergency call, where a miracle is being asked for and what’s more expected. In a sick sort of way, its nice to know this stuff happens at every level of someone’s career.
It’s also sort of heartening to me (i a sick kind of way) to hear that many big names have picked up the phone and been squeaking down the line, desperate for a miracle. It makes all the things I haven’t known needed work seem a little less “doh” on my part.
All our “squeaky hinges” dwelling in our throat’s and “Yogi bear” sounds and “cheshire cat” voices mostly go un-noticed, until we start to put pressure on them. We simply don’t know they are a problem nor do we understand just how much air needs to roll past the vocal chords, nor are we prepared to spend twenty minutes each day working the vocal chords, the six pack of our voice.
Its hard to work out anything when you don’t even know it needs working out.
I trust you will at least start to investigate what the voice needs to stay strong, or at least remember this communication and know what to do when you find yourself “desperate in the carpark” at the back of your venue.
If you are interested in working with your voice a little more and beginning to understand what you need to know to get your vocal chords up to a level where they won’t break down on you, then I recommend you make some time with Dean Frenkel if you are in Australia or Roger Love if you are in the USA.
Our voice is our wand in everything we do and the stronger our voice and the stronger we can communicate, the more successful we are going to be.
The next 90 Days is going to be a bit rough for me as i adjust back to life downunder and get down to some serious work.
Throwing myself back into work is something I find works after these magical adventures “upover”. I also know that putting some solid work into the next 90 days is going to make the first six months of 2014 look way different.