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The Three Commitments to Business Success

Focus – Action – Finish

This newsletter is taken from one I wrote in January 2009.  There have been three separate trips to the USA and each trip bought deep spiritual and physical growth for me.

When I meet people in person they always tell me they love how much my stories have inspired them so I’ll share the ups and downs of the trips throughout the series.  It seems unfair that you miss out on some of these adventures simply because you weren’t there in real time.  I also share them so you can see some of what I’ve been through and I trust it helps you to see that business success doesn’t come from sitting on your duff.  It happens when you step up and make it happen.

This story was written as I was sitting at Los Angeles airport chewing my way through the snacks in the Red Carpet Lounge.  There was an eight hour layover as I patiently awaited my flight back to Melbourne later that night. YAY – 15 hours in a plane!

The adventure started with a 10 day Vipassana silent meditation retreat on an island off Seattle on the 19th of December 2007.  It was a kids summer camp in the winter and it rained A LOT!  Yes, I can confirm that I can stay silent for 10 whole days – a miracle for those of you who know me well.

That would be enough challenge for a normal person but oh no I went onto a second challenge during the first few days of 2008.  I completed an extreme experience outside Durango in the Colorado Rockies.  Each day we had no idea where we were going or what we were doing.  Each day we only knew our pick up point, what to wear & what food we needed.

It was a radical experience designed to make us understand exactly who we really were.  The majesty of those mountains sorts you out in a few short days.  One day thirteen of us hiked from 7,000 feet UP to 8,000 feet in a serious snow storm and that was one of the easier days emotionally!

Each day the experiences were different and designed to challenge us on four levels:

  1. Physical
  2. Spiritual
  3. Financial
  4. Relational

I won hands down on spiritual but the other three quite honestly challenged me because there were some serious players on the tour.

The thing you need to know about me is that I’m not an “outdoorsie” type.  My baseline is “is there a flushing toilet?”  No flushing toilet and I’m not there.  Well I got to the top of that bloody mountain and guess what – yep, not only no flushing toilet but it was this stinking horrible tin can in the ground, I can’t even describe what was on the floor and I had about 15 layers of ski gear on.  I was not happy, but somewhere in that level of discomfort, something inside you shifts at a cellular level and breaks you through to another layer of business success.

On this trip I was definitely the under dog when it came to business success.

Most of the participants were millionaires in their own right.  I’ve been told a hundred times over to hang out with people more successful than me and to push myself past my known boundaries and let me tell you it works, but it did make me VERY uncomfortable at times!

At one point crossing to get to a sacred site they made us walk over an icy track the size of a footpath with an 8,000 foot drop either side, and nothing to grab if you slipped.  It is one of the most dangerous situations I’ve ever been in and I’ve never been that close to having my actions, or lack of them, result in death.  This exercise was designed to teach us that in business there is little room for error, or lack of focus.

I can honestly tell you there was NOTHING else on my mind as I intently focused and put one tentative foot in front of the other.

It made me realise that one of the things most people building a small heart centred business lack (and I include myself here) is FOCUS.

Think about it, how many times have you focused on your business like your life truly depended on it?

We are great at the things we like to do, such as learning and studying our craft, and we are gazillionaires at sitting around talking about our respective modalities but when it comes to things like money or promoting our services we are paupers.  We become all flaky and full of excuses why we can’t have the success and we avoid the correct actions necessary to achieve the success we deserve and desire.

I’ve heard every justification under the sun from therapists excusing their lack of action.  I’ve made those same excuses myself in the past but you know what – we don’t help people while we are making excuses.  Excuses keep us out of our practice and in denial of the gifts and talents we spent all those long years learning.  In fact we thumb our noses at the higher sources that granted us those gifts so we could help others on the planet who are in pain or suffering or are stressed out to the max.

I met four amazing Native American Indians on this trip, one them is described as the last of the “old ones”.  I swear when I looked into this man’s eyes his energy would have knocked me back into the chair had he not been holding onto my hand.  To be in the presence of a healer of his magnitude brings tears to my eyes just thinking about him.  It was truly an honour to be in the presence of such greatness but his strength was held with the grace of an angel.

The thing that amazed me the most was that as soon as we met these amazing medicine men, they just started to talk and they talked and they talked about their craft, about their people about their wonderful medicine techniques, about their family, their children, about the people they have helped. They tell riveting stories of their ancestors and of the rituals they go through every year to thank Mother Earth and Father Sky who nourish and protect them.

The wisdom of these people oozes out of every cell in their body and they are fiercely proud of what they know.  They cherish the amount of time they have taken to learn this knowledge, in all instances that wisdom has been acquired over many lifetimes.  They are constantly learning and improving but what struck me most is that they are not shy or reserved in any way about telling a captive audience how much they know or how good they are at what they do.  They certainly aren’t full of themselves, or they certainly aren’t skiting or hard selling anything.  In fact their humility is overwhelming.

They are merely telling stories and sharing their knowledge and they do it with pride & perfect commitment to the people they heal.

So why then do we shy away from sharing what we do with people.  Why are we programmed to not shine our light when the people who invented this stuff are not shy or backwards in telling people who want to know about what they do?  Why do we continue to hide from our greatness?

To be able to share your message with others like these wonderful medicine men is really important.  To share your greatness is a gift and the ability to share can be learned.

They aren’t pushy and salesy

They simply weave their greatness into stories so compelling you can’t but help want to listen.  This is a massive clue for you as you go out to promote yourself and your business.  Stories will keep people involved way more than sales.  After all you’re still here reading this story!

Greatness means different things to different people.  It doesn’t matter  if you want to help 10 or 10,000 people every year.  What matters is that you achieve your targets and actually help as many people as you are meant to.  The only way you can do that is if you can adequately describe what you can do for people.

As I sit here understanding that my business is now truly international particularly as I’m writing to you from LAX – it makes me understand how far I have come and what I had to go through to get the courage to speak out.  As I realise I have been able to do it, that makes me even more committed this year to help you do much better in your practices.

As those who have encountered me know I am pretty darn serious about what I do but on this trip I realised I had been playing a small game.   Colorado transformed me from a person who was really only trudging around a hill to someone who could literally soar up a massive new mountain.

A few months earlier, I nearly missed out on being part of this trip because I went into FEAR.  The trip cost an arm and a leg and a couple of torsos too but I knew I needed help and after years of procrastination & listening to sensible advice from myself and others not to go, I finally got the guts to just get on the plane. I am so pleased I found the courage and strength to eventually join the tour because words cannot adequately describe the beauty and the sacred energy of the mountains and people that constantly surrounded me.

You can get these experiences at home too – all you need to do is to get really committed.

The magic and adventure will occur when you commit.

There is no excuse for not being all the best you can be this year, all you have to do is step up and get focused on helping as many people as you can.  Because that is the bottom line here, the more you overcome your fears, the more people you will help…….. and isn’t that why you trained to be a natural therapist?

I nearly didn’t go on that walk up the mountain that day because I believed my lack of “outdoorsiness” would see me cross the line last AGAIN!  At school the teacher used to shout in front of the class as I ALWAYS ran across the finish line – “AND HERE COME BEATLE-BOMB”.

Something within me chose to take a risk and go.  I finished fourth!  Not because I was fast, but because I just kept going.  When everyone else stopped for a break I just kept going.  My body hurt so much that I knew if I stopped I wouldn’t get back up again and would have to be carried off the mountain.  So I just kept going.

My new mantra after that climb up the mountainside is ***FOCUS, ACTION, FINISH***

The one thing I learnt trudging up that mountain in minus three degrees, as snow piles formed on my head and shoulders, was that success comes with focus.

I believe we all have a finisher within.  We can chose to sit on the sidelines and watch everyone else run over the finish line without us.  We can keep our dreams small, we can continue telling ourselves we are not good enough, don’t have enough experience, and who would want to listen to us anyway.  We can keep saying those things, or you can chose to believe positive things about your abilities.

No matter what unkind things people have said to you in past, you don’t have to be that person now.  The past doesn’t equal the future.  Maybe I’ll never run a minute mile, but I know if I just put one foot in front of the other, I can beat anything that’s put in front of me.

I Was The Only One Who Heard The Mountain Sing

That day as I trudged up the mountain on my own, the mountain started to sing to.  It was the most amazing sound I’ve ever heard.

When we got to the top I excitedly asked the others if they’d heard it.  They looked at me weird and kept on talking.  I just smiled because deep within I knew they hadn’t heard because they were too busy crapping on about nothing all the way up the mountain.

The mountain man who led us on the journey up the mountain took me aside later in the day and told me that I’d heard the voices of his ancestors.  He said they don’t speak to many.

I felt very happy I’d spilt from the crowd and given myself the opportunity to experience something very special AND for the first time ever to be the unlikely finisher.

Are you an unlikely finisher?

I’d like to bet you are.  All you need to do is to believe in yourself and just keep going.

If you focus on what you want to achieve, take the correct action, get the correct resources and then don’t stop until you finish, you will succeed.

The only way to keep getting better is to push yourself past your limits and to learn from others who have walked the path before you.  Just like that famous slogan says “Just Do It” and then FOCUS – ACTION – FINISH!

How I Overcame My Fear of Public Speaking & Networking All in One Night

Why would any sane individual choose to overcome their fear of public speaking in front of an audience of their peers?

I can’t think of a single good reason why anyone would do that but it’s how I decided once and for all to shake my fear of public speaking and “get over myself and get on with it”.

Failing to Plan Isn’t ALWAYS Planning to Fail

I’d love to tell you my first foray onto the stage was a well documented, highly planned strategic decision taken after hours of research and reflection.  But no, it wasn’t like that at all.

It seems like light years ago now.  I was a newly trained and very nervous coach and like anyone entering a new industry for the first time I’d joined my professional body, The International Coach Federation (ICF), to meet others in my situation and to gain confidence and creditability.

I was at an ICF meeting one evening feeling pretty darn good about having overcome the fear to actually attend a meeting.  They were having a membership drive and the President called for volunteers to speak about their ICF experience at a public meeting.  I heard my brain say “Hell no, that’s not for me”.

Watch for Flying Body Parts

Then as I noticed my hand fly into the air, the rest of my body froze.

How dare this traitor raise itself without proper consultation!

Hadn’t we discussed my wretched fear of public speaking many times?

Did this hand not understand that we had spent months creating a series of particularly cunning and plausible excuses NOT TO APPEAR in public?  We had blitzed the “appearing at meetings” thing and now without warning we were considering SPEAKING ….. in PUBLIC!

FEAR Was Cursing Through My Veins!

I was an experienced avoider.  Could the hand not remember the couple of goes I’d had at turning up to events, actions designed to help me overcome my fear of being in public spaces with strangers.  How many times did I just keep driving past the venue when the five empty parking spaces right out the front had been deemed “too far away”?  I’m even ashamed to admit that I sat on a tram and cruised past the venue glancing at my watch and realising I was a few minutes late for an ICF event, therefore unable to attend because I would “disrupt the meeting”.  I got off at the next stop, crossed the tracks and went back home on the next available tram.

The funny thing was when I did actually attend my first ICF meeting several people arrived late and no one blinked an eye.  So much for the late theory! What’s more I was made welcome and people actually talked to me (yet another lie dispelled from my plethora of irrational fears conquered in the dark archives of the groundless and illogical doubts residing between my ears).

Now having overcome the fear of turning up, I was now sitting with my hand up in the air volunteering to speak as a novice member. WHAT WAS I THINKING????

I’d rather fall face first into a plate of cold vomit than speak in public.

Volunteer Now and Think Later

Not only was I volunteering to speak in public, I was volunteering to speak in front of my peers.  Hooley Dooley, I’d done it this time!  They were sure to throw tomatoes, I would surely be asked to resign my membership and I would be ostracised from the coaching community forever and would fry in hell if I ever tried to enter again.

Then I heard the Presidents dreaded words “thank you Margaret, we’d love to have you speak”.

WHAT HAD I DONE!

I can tell you there was a LOT of hand wringing in the next few weeks.  Then I realised the only way to deal with the situation was to ignore it and continue to hope that the world would end before I had to do the talk.

Then it came the day before the talk and I realised Armageddon hadn’t happened and I would need to write my speech.  So I sat down and started to map out how the ICF had helped me as a fledgling coach.  Actually once the pen hit the paper I found it was painless and the words flowed easily because I was only writing about what I had experienced.  That wasn’t so hard.

Then it came time to practice my talk.  As I started to speak I stumbled over the words the first few times but I found the more I practiced the easier it became.

There seemed to be a pattern emerging here.  The more action I took the easier things became…hmmmmm.

I was beginning to understand that most of the fear around this event was probably residing in my head.  But I continued to practice and finally it came time to speak.  I had taken a friend along as moral support and I had my best clothes on and I figured at least I’d go down looking good!

Despite my knees knocking, my palms sweating, my heart thumping and every cell in my body ready to run for the door, I got through my talk.  I just read out what I’d written because I didn’t know any better.  I stumbled on a couple of words and no one seemed to care and at the end everyone complimented me on my heart felt words.

I got out without one single tomato stain on my silk jacket, my membership was still in tact and what’s more, every single person in that room knew who I was and what I was about.  Not only had I cleared my fear of public speaking, I’d also figured out how to successfully network all in one night.

I continue to speak in public.  I never go to networking events (unless I choose to) because I know that the most power is in the front of the room.

My confidence has grown so much now that I deliver keynotes at the start of conferences, I speak to a lot of associations, I’ve had some training from some of the best in the industry and I often find myself volunteering to speak in all sorts of situations.  The weirdest discovery is that I LOVE TO SPEAK and my ability to speak has brought me opportunities beyond my wildest dreams.

But even now, there are rules that must never be broken.  Stick with these and you will never go wrong:

1. Speak on topics you are passionate about and know a lot about

2. Know your target market and never speak outside it

3. Write your talk at least one week out from the event

4. Practice and tweak, practice and tweak

5. Make your start and finish impactful & learn them off by heart

6. Have notes with bullet points on the podium to remind you what goes in the middle (in case you forget)

7. Keep it succinct and don’t try to tell them everything you know all at once

8. Embrace the fear and use it to your advantage – the adrenalin is helping to pump you up for the talk

9. Get over yourself and make it about the audience

10. Be yourself; be real and be authentic – it works a treat!

I have realised my message is now more important than me so I just continue to get over myself and get on with it.  I trust this nutty little (true) story will help you overcome your fears too.

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Do You Have A Choose Day?

The Beatles made a lot of money from a song called “Eight Days a Week” but to make a lot of money in your small business doesn’t mean you have to work Eight Days a Week.

Work life balance and starting a small business are not often seen on the same page.  Somewhere in the “silent code book for small business – author unknown” there is a rule that says you have to work your butt off to be successful.

Most certainly you do need to put in a lot of time and effort in the early days ……. BUT if you work yourself into a burnout frenzy, you are NOT going to be able to work effectively IN your business, let alone ON your business.

One of my fabulous coaches and mentors taught me that you MUST have regular time off to rest and recuperate.

If you aren’t 100% filled up, you can’t give 100% to others.

In the early days of setting up your business you need to be out and about seeing and speaking with a lot of people.  It can be exhausting.

If your business is well established, it can be exhausting just giving as much as you do to your clients, so balancing that with adequate rest and down time is vital to your success.

BUT there IS a lot of work in getting any small business working well and sometimes you do have to burn a bit of midnight oil to get all the things done that you’ve got to do.  Plus most of us have a home office, known fondly by many as “international headquarters” and the temptation to overwork is generally just a few steps down the hall.

So I’ve come up with a strategy that works for me.

I have ONE NON-NEGOTIABLE DAY OFF EVERY WEEK.  

That means no matter what is going on I MUST NOT go into my office, nor turn my computer on, nor answer the office phone, nor do filing or paperwork – nothing!  One day a week has to be completely for me.  That rule never gets broken!

I found if I had two non negotiable days off and there was a back log starting to build in my office, all that would happen is that I’d end up stressing about it.

To overcome the stress, I created the concept of “CHOOSE DAY”

I create a CHOOSE DAY in my diary one day every week.  So I cross the day off and write in CHOOSE DAY. It can be any day of the week, it doesn’t have to be a set day each week but it does have to be in your diary every week – months in advance.

So when CHOOSE DAY rolls around I can look at that day and think – is there anything so pressing it can’t wait until tomorrow?

Sometimes there are pressing things that MUST be done so I choose to work part of the day.  Sometimes I use CHOOSE DAY as my creative writing day, which I love and it fills me up. Other times I know there is nothing pressing so I have CHOOSE DAY off to dig my garden without guilt, or go shopping or just rest and read a book.

What is important is that I get to CHOOSE.

The golden rule is that you NEVER book anything else on a CHOOSE DAY so that when it rolls around you have a true choice in how you spend that day.

I find by having a CHOOSE DAY I end up with eight days in a week because I tend to jam everything into the other days of the week so CHOOSE DAY remains free.  I find it stops me procrastinating on the other days and I just get on with whatever needs doing so my CHOOSE Day remains a “me” day.

The video below is how I spent my Choose Day this week – it just happened to be a Tuesday and everything you see in the video is about three minutes walk from each other – guess it’s going to be my Choose Day location for a while anyway!

How I Spent One Of My Choose Days in Ocean Shores NSW Australia

Three Dead Mice, See How They Float!

RIPx3Yesterday morning I found three dead mice in the pool!

I could be heard all over the neighbourhood screaming “three dead mice in the pool ……. not in the contract, not in the contract”.

It was very funny and luckily the owner, who thought I’d fallen IN the pool because there was so much noise, was still here so he could scoop the soggy, perfectly lined up nursery rhyme characters, out of the pool and unceremoniously dump them in the paddock.

He kept saying, we’ve never had that before, so the message was obviously for me!

On the same day I learned about gecko poop and the perfect little white dot that appears on every deposit left on top of the outdoor dining table.

Most certainly the animal spirits were on my case!

This morning I did a bit Google-ing about the spiritual meaning of geckos and mice and it seems there is no “co-incidence” that I decided to listen to my Tony Robbins tapes about goal setting on my recent three day road trip.

Goal setting is very spiritual

Ode to Gecko

Since re-listening to the tapes again over the weekend I began to tap further into the fact that goal setting is very spiritual.

I’ve never considered that before.

Basically our goals reflect our deepest desires.

The word desire comes from the latin root “of the father”.

If we look at the word in it’s higher context, then the desire for what we want must be seeded, channelled or fathered by our higher source, whatever that is for each individual.

It became easier for me to understand when I split the word into De-SIRE – like “to sire”, the way a male horse is described in racing circles.

If our creativity, ideas etc are all “fathered” or “sired” from that higher part of us that is divine pure love, then it transpires that our goals and desires must be “de-sired” from the same source and are very sacred.

It is also very masculine energy so it is very important that we find ways within the divine feminine to balance the high levels of yang within the goal setting process.

The higher meaning in the word was enough to shift my whole way of thinking about goal setting.

It isn’t always about stuff

The traditional goal setting of just getting “more and more stuff” doesn’t really appeal to someone who can fit all her possessions in a 3 x 3 x 3 container and would still have room to park her car in there …. if she was allowed!

Goals about contribution and giving make sense

It makes much more sense to me to be creating a life and world where we are giving and encouraging people to “be more” rather than “get more”. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t stop wanting to have more physical abundance, because with more money you can do a whole lot more contributing than you can without it.

There has to be balance

When you are poor you are so focused on everyday survival, you have very little left in the tank to give generously to others. Therefore it is important to have some “get” goals or you can’t “give”.

There can be guilt associated with goal setting

I can remember a good friend accusing me of “being greedy” for evoking the parking angel and “wishing up” car parks where ever I wanted one. When you view the spiritual link to goal setting, we will automatically have the best available to us, so why would wanting the best be wrong?

I’m currently housesitting in an beautiful home in a tropical paradise with a pool, spa and staff who keep it all good. All I have to do is scoop the leaves off the top of the pool each morning and deal with anything unforeseen that drops in the pool overnight!

Someone was always going to be here. Why wouldn’t it be me?

It is probably the same for you if you are of service to the world, why shouldn’t you de-serve to have the best of every situation?

It’s all about respect

When our goals and desires are treated in a very respectful way and really tap into what we truly want, then we are at one with the universe.

Makes sense if we are tapping that universal flow, then our goals will become much easier to achieve.

Walk In Courageous TrustIt’s all about trust

In the crazy up and down world of trust I live in now, I’ve come to understand that now more than ever our thoughts and words are simply the parking angel of life. We can chose the best or worst situation for ourselves. It just takes a bit of guts to take the leaps of faith and deal with the aftermath of the decision, so you can align up to what you truly desire.

It’s about finding the right goals for YOU and no one else

If you are interested in working on your goals, getting your planning done and catching your dreams and putting them into action, then my Planning For YOUR Success program may be just what you need.  You can check it out here

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Do You Think You Are a Master?

I’ll let you into a little secret, I reckon you are already a master or are on a path to mastery because everyone on my list is already passionate about or awesome at something.

I’ve NEVER once had anyone on my list rock up to a client session or complimentary assessment session stating “I want to be crap at what I do, I want to rip people off and treat them badly and I’m happy being mediocre”.

Likes attract, so even if I’ve never met you personally, the fact you’ve joined my community and stayed on my list and put up with all my mad rantings leads me to believe you are a unique human being but just like the people I have spoken to, you want to bring about change, you want to make a difference and you want to do it to a very high standard. That’s mastery!

To me, the definition of a master is someone who has practiced their craft so well they can teach their area of expertise and inspire others to transcend their current place in the world and then consider taking another step upwards.

In the traditions, master simply means teacher.

You may not have considered what you do as mastery, because people can get bent out of shape by the word “mastery”.

I remember when I was first considering doing my Reiki Masters my brain went into warp speed thinking I had to become this “perfect” human being and I immediately began questioning “who was I to consider being a master”, after all I was just someone who left school at 15 to play in a rock and roll band.

I was ever so relieved when my teacher pointed out that wanting to be a master didn’t mean I had to become a perfectly ascended spiritual being, I simply had to teach people how to do Reiki. Truth be known at that point I’d done so much crewing that I already knew how a Reiki weekend ran from soup to nuts, so it made the decision to go ahead much easier.

Two Core Characteristics of Mastery

Anyone who is seeking or has attained mastery have two things in common.

  1. Masters only focus on being masterful at one thing. In fact they are compulsive about one thing, and everything else around them is relegated to second best slot.
  2. Masters have a constant desire to learn and raise their ambition.

Perfectionists vs Masters

Like I did, people often associate perfection with mastery. The difference is perfectionists often knock themselves out trying to make everything perfect, whereas the master just gets on with it and only focuses on the one thing that they are really good at.

4-Levels-of-Mastery-The-Happiness-Guy

I found this great diagram by David Humes – “The Happiness Guy” showing his 4 levels to mastery

You can read an explanation of the diagram here

I believe everyone on the planet has come to master something, how far that mastery gets taken is up to each individual.

The first key to recognising a master is that what they do seems drop dead easy, but when it comes to replicating their gift, others can’t even get close.

The second key is, they practice A LOT.

I’ve only recently realised how many masters I’ve been blessed to be surrounded by for most of my life. It hadn’t occurred to me earlier because many are masters of unique, non-mainstream (un-sexy) gifts.

In my corporate days I frequently found myself in the company of computer nerds and accountants. They all carried a passion and an amazingly detailed understanding of their work. The computer nerds would finish work and go home and write computer games. They couldn’t stop themselves practicing their art.

I’ve noticed seven personal traits that masters carry.

  1. Practice and dedication come easily
  2. Life time learners
  3. Strong sense of self
  4. Seek and accept criticism well
  5. Resilient
  6. Love sharing their knowledge
  7. Connected to something greater than themselves

You might think you aren’t masterful at anything but I bet you either have mastered something, or are on the way to mastery.

Within the healing and coaching field I still see many masters struggling to get their business happening. Most of that struggle comes from them denying their obvious mastery. Even though their gifts are obvious, so many deny either who they should be working with or go the hard road because they perceive they can’t get recognition or make money from their gift.

How do I know? That was me!

I get close to masters really easily but haven’t thought of helping them get more masterly outside Reiki. But when I’m helping masterly people the doors just fly open and I frequently find myself sitting beside masters getting my questions answered with little or no effort, while others are queueing up for the right. I have never given it much thought. But it has been there all my life.

Masters leave clues. I am currently housesitting for a lady who is a master printmaker. She has a HUGE studio almost as big as her house at the end of the garden. She is currently travelling as an artist in residence in Europe for several months.

Is she a household name …. no.

Is she rich and famous ….. in her circle of influence yes, but she is not “mainstream” famous.

Is there a fabric or medium she hasn’t tried printing on ….. probably not!

I can tell from the walls of the house that she is prolific. She has works in the National Gallery and travels the world with her art. She has reached that stage where she is so masterful at her craft that others want to sit at her feet and learn from her.

Mastering A Masterly Mindset

The mindset of a master can be a curious thing because masters are often humble. Because they have become unconsciously competent they put no level of importance on their skills because it comes to them so easily. They forget the hours spend learning and practicing.

For a master to be fully activated, they must master not only their craft, but also master themselves in seven core areas:

    1. Knowledge
    2. Vision
    3. Voice
    4. Heart
    5. Action
    6. Commitment
    7. Energy

I’ve found masters with the right encouragement can intuitively connect to the heart, voice, vision and higher aspects of themselves.

Where they struggle the most is in the root chakra of connecting with tribe and being abundantly rewarded for their gifts. They frequently deny their creativity and mastering self belief gets put on the back burner. It doesn’t have to be this way.

Now more than ever we can get our messages to masses of people without too much effort.  If you would like some help getting your mastery to the world, or perhaps you just a want muse where you can talk through your ideas with someone who will inspire you and naturally lead you to expand your ideas and mastery.

You can email me now if you require more information

Are you working on something that needs to get implemented …. but it’s not happening

When you shine white light through a prism, you get a rainbow …… right?

Imagine how taking on the energy of a prism could help you find your rainbow’s pot of gold.

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I believe your rainbow needs to contain Seven Core Essential Refractionary Success Elements: Pink Floyd were most definitely carrying the Seven Core Essential Elements when Dark Side of the Moon became their first #1 album in the USA.  They are:

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Even if you aren’t old enough to remember the iconic 70’s Pink Floyd album, the iconic image of the prism will be familiar.  I recently read an interesting blog post that stated it took the band 3 minutes to decide on that cover.

The band knew the power of the image and the designer the late Storm Thorgerson stated:

“No amount of cajoling would get them to consider any other contender,
nor endure further explanation of the prism, or how exactly it might look.
‘That’s it,’ they said in unison, ‘we’ve got to get back to real work,’
and returned forthwith to the studio upstairs.”

The success of the album lay in those final eight words – “we’ve got to get back to the real work”.

The band were so clear and so immersed in their work, that they could make the exact right design decision in 3 minutes and then get back to what was most important ….. the music.

They were implementing their craft.

So often we get drawn off focus by noise while what we really do takes a back seat.  

Without a body of work standing behind a well crafted design, well you’ve just got a pretty picture.  Images become iconic when the artistry behind the message connects with the heart and soul of an audience.

Highly focused mission centric individuals need to become so clear and strong in their belief of self and the mastery of their craft that they can’t be pulled off track when the noise rolls in.

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But how do you get that level of clarity and drive?

I believe you need seven streams, just like the rainbow rolling out in equal proportion from the prism.

You Are The Prism 
However, to become a master at anything you must also be strongly connected to that stream of white light because YOU are the prism that creates the rainbow!

I’m sure you are canny enough to have noticed that the Seven Core Essential Refractionary Success Elements have exact correlation to the chakras of the body:

  1. Vision –Third Eye
  2. Voice – Throat
  3. Commitment – Sacral
  4. Knowledge – Crown
  5. Action – Solar Plexus
  6. Heart – Heart
  7. Energy – Base

Like a body we need to keep feeding and nurturing each area to keep it in tip top shape.

The Power of Immersion

Since I dropped the constraints of my mortgage, I’ve had the luxury of being able to travel, get out of my normal routines and just sit back and do some extreme immersion.  As I start to pull out of my recluse phase with more clarity than I’ve ever had before, stuff is just starting to pour out of me.

I had someone say to me recently “you’ve got so much going on …. I get confused”.

But that’s the point!

I’m an implementor and after so much time in this industry it would be wrong if I hadn’t created a bit of confusion as I’ve implemented all I’ve been taught.

Confusion Is Your Friend!

Now it’s time to present the information in a more orderly fashion, but I couldn’t do that until I got a little confused first.

Nearly two years on and the clarity is finally coming through.  The clarity fits with the one thing I’ve done exceptionally well all my life – implementation.

I’d go off to learn something and I’d go home and type up my notes and get practicing and within a couple of weeks I’d be offering the modality for sale.  I was always surprised that others hadn’t found implementation that easy.

I have NEVER given that gift any credence, yet in the corporate world, problem solving and implementing complex projects was my greatest strength.

Have you got something you haven’t been giving full credit to?


The Power of Chat

The clarity has become possible because I’ve had people I can talk my stuff through with.

The power of “chat” has been amazing and it has allowed me to see how I can be helping people in the future.

So you may be asking “how can The Implementor help me”?

  • Have you had brilliant ideas that are still not implemented?
  • Have you found yourself at a cross roads not really sure which way to move forward?
  • Have you ever attended an event or spiritual retreat and all you wanted to do was talk about what you experienced, that weird co-incidence or the epiphany that friends and family don’t want to know about?
  • Have you returned from an event fully fired up but life got in the way and your notes are still sitting on a shelf gathering dust while that dream atrophies in a corner of your mind?

Nothing in this new energy is straightforward or linear and these deep experiences can be challenging to see where all the messages and gifts fit together.

Talking it out is the only way to find the hidden gold, but you have to do that with someone who can listen across all seven refractionary levels.

I believe we have three stages which encompass our journey:

1.  The Light = Vision, Voice, Knowledge – all the top chakras

2.  The Prism = The Heart – the pivot point

3.  The Rainbow = Energy, Commitment, Action – all the base chakras

The Seven Core Essential Refractionary Success Elements tease out like this:

You Are The Prism

 

When we are the prism, we need firstly to generate the light, we need to find our voice, find our vision and bring together everything we know, so our mission becomes clear.

Once that light hits the pivotal heart point or the prism, we then need energy, commitment and action to allow the rainbow to flow out in a strong and balanced manner.

That’s the difference between the guys in Pink Floyd and all other mission centric individuals who changed the world through their work or passion.  They had vision, they had a strong voice or sound, they made it their business to master their craft.  Enormous amounts of heart goes into their work and most importantly, despite all the myriad of distractions, they had the energy, commitment and passion to action their dreams.

Our industry has a tendency to focus on the heart and the light, the lack of action is why we can end up feeling like there is a lot of rain and not much rainbow!

But if you focus on each stage equally and allow all decisions and implementation to be carried out at the heart level, then you’re going to have a recipe for success.

My Implement Your Heart Out program focuses on the heart part of your prism.  If you need more rainbow, you would need the Higher Ambition Coaching Program.  If you are interested you can see which of my programs help each part of your rainbow below.

Hopefully the grid below will diffuse some of the confusion around my new MargaretGill.com products.  Abundant Private Practices has its own set of unique products.

Stages  Giving You The Ability to Product Giving You The Power of
 The
Light 
 7 Shine Ignite Your Divine Fuse Potential
 6 See Diamond Quadrant Program Insight
 5 Speak Courageous Speaking
Truth
 Heart   4 Hear Implement Your Heart Out Healing
 The Rainbow  3 Accept Higher Ambition Coaching Belief
 2 Execute Unearth Your Sacred Potential Commitment
 1 Create Burst Through BluePrint Discomfo


Brendon Burchard
taught us to create these Integrated Product Suites at 10XEMPIRE in New York.

I like to call this a Logical Product Flow.  The clarity comes from my Diamond Quadrant Program.

You can see how all my programs lead to your ultimate mastery in the following diagram.

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My new work is not just limited to business or to therapists. 

So whether you have a business or not, it doesn’t matter, you could be implementing what you learned on a cooking tour of Italy or understand what that elephant was trying to tell you on safari in Africa.  Maybe you have trained to teach something but you are still not teaching it yet.  

I am able to help both the business and the spiritual side come to balance so you can implement.

Are you up for it?

Shot me an email if you are interested in a one on one spot on the Implement Your Heart Out or Diamond Quadrant Program or any of the programs below.

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A Great Networking Spiel

I learned a great format from Andrea J Lee to use when perhaps your product or service is a little difficult to explain.

She recommends instead of trying to explain in detail what you do, simply follow this format:

Great Networking Questions To Ask

You know how some people _________________________________________

so that they ______________________________________________________

well what I do is ___________________________________________________

so that they ______________________________________________________

So I might have

You know how some people are always going off learning stuff

so that they get so overwhelmed and overloaded with information they end up like rabbits stuck in the headlights?

well what I do is help them sort through everything they've learned so they only end up with the bits that matter

so that they can start implementing and feeling good about whatever it is they started to create in the first place

I love this format because it takes away any stress for people and puts into plain English what you do.

It is also asking a question and it has been proven that the brain when faced with a question likes to see if it can answer that question.

So if you are at a networking function or a place where there are a lot of strangers, well it helps you to captivate them with a question and keep them focused on what you are saying without you coming off as pushy or salesey.

They want to stay engaged to see if they can answer the question.  In this instance, it will often spark conversation because by the time you finish their brain will hopefully have thought of an alternative answer to your question and they will have something immediate to share with you.

What is it that you do, that you could develop into a question?

The last few days I’ve been living like a rock star in Beverly Hills

Did you know that what you’ve been doing in the past 90 days is what will shape the next six months?

I’m currently sitting in the United Lounge at Los Angeles airport – my 90 Day tourist visa is up!  Once Uncle Sam is done with you, there is nothing to do but ride that silver bird back to the wide brown land.  The jolt back to reality is going to be huge as the wheels hit the tarmac at Kingsford Smith Sydney in sixteen hours time.

P1000004The last few days I’ve been living like a rock star in Beverly Hills.

To be honest that whole Rodeo Drive things just leaves me cold.  I wandered there yesterday in search of food and was totally bemused by people in the omni-present tourist buses going up and down taking pictures of stores they couldn’t afford to shop in.  The whole celebrity things is a bit lost on me. although I did get to walk through the lobby of the “Pretty Woman” hotel and saw the balcony Julia Roberts sat on threatening to tobble over as the scared of heights Richard Gere just about had kittens.  Guess I’m as bad as the happy snappers 🙂

Also drove through Hollywood and Vine where the man walks across the road shouting “Welcome to Hollywood! What’s your dream?”

Our dreams are funny things.  The more action we put into each set of 90 days we get gifted – the closer our dreams get to reality.  The actions we don’t take atrophy our dreams.

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Image By Pixabay

During my last two days in LA, I had the pleasure to be gifted a one on one session with vocal coach Roger Love.  I’d never dreamed this little kiwi could be tutored by someone who has worked with some big names from downunder like INXS, Hanson, Missy Higgins plus all the greats from USA music and film.  As I sat in his office surrounded by his accolades and framed platinum CD’s – well it was all a bit surreal.

The only reason it happened was because I took a risk that as yet hasn’t fully paid off.  But being around people who work with people who follow their dreams takes you to a new level even before you get started.

As you step up to the plate and you have to be prepared to hear the truth and be prepared to listen.

I knew as I took the honest feedback about my voice and the way I speak that all those who stood in the same spot in his office had heard similar news delivered, because we rarely consider our voice.

Doesn’t matter who you are, you still have things to learn about your trade.  After taking a huge piece of feedback on an earlier teleclass with Roger, I’ve had a couple of other things added to my voice improvements list:  “the high squeaky hinge”,  “not filling the room enough”, “speaking too quietly”, “not dropping my jaw”, “tongue too high” ….. crikey it’s little wonder I have so much trouble ordering take out in the USA!  It’s not until you get out of your comfort zone or your own environment for challenges you never knew you had, to start appearing.

Roger Love & ME Lge.001Then as we stepped over to the piano Roger reminded me that anything shared is done with love – pun intended I’m sure 🙂  My response was – “let me have all the feedback, don’t meter it, just tell me where I can improve”.

That thirst for feedback has been my friend over the years.  Sure it hurts and cuts like a knife when you first hear it, but as soon as you start to work on the problem, it feels like progress is being made.

Most never progress because they can’t take the “negative” feedback.  They want everything wrapped in cotton wool, they want it watered down, they want it so politically correct that the truth gets lost in the memory foam wrapper.

I really encourage you to be up for feedback and up to take on new information in your own business and personal ambition.

You see the thing that is our greatest enemy is what we don’t know, we don’t know.

The confidence and courage that comes from knowing you have at least one small part of what you need to learn is taken care of, well it automatically brings you to a new place.

Anyone who lives from a place of higher ambition, will always be seeking new knowledge, new feedback and new ways of doing things because they are desperate to find all those things they don’t know and start to work on correcting them.

I’ve had some wonderful conversations with the fabulous speakers and coaches, about the theory of the voice.  I knew it was important, but I didn’t realise how important our voice is until I attended World’s Greatest Speaker Training.

https://rogerlove.com/wgst1/It was amusing and alarming all at the same time to hear Brendon Burchard tell us how he met Roger Love.  After a very grueling schedule, Brendon was standing in the carpark at one of his mega events, hundreds of red cordial filled fans screaming for more, still with a couple of days left to present and NO voice.  Roger was able to give him enough exercises in the carpark to enable him to go back on stage and present.

But as Roger warned us, its not ideal to get your voice into this type of situation.

Of course we never put the work in before hand, because we don’t know what we don’t know.  So Roger inevitably gets the emergency call, where a miracle is being asked for and what’s more expected.  In a sick sort of way, its nice to know this stuff happens at every level of someone’s career.

It’s also sort of heartening to me (in a sick kind of way) to hear that many big names have picked up the phone and been squeaking down the line, desperate for a miracle.  It makes all the things I haven’t known needed work seem a little less “doh” on my part.

All our “squeaky hinges” dwelling in our throat’s and “Yogi bear” sounds and “cheshire cat” voices mostly go un-noticed, until we start to put pressure on them.  We simply don’t know they are a problem nor do we understand just how much air needs to roll past the vocal chords, nor are we prepared to spend twenty minutes each day working the vocal chords, the six pack of our voice.

Its hard to work out anything when you don’t even know it needs working out.

I trust you will at least start to investigate what the voice needs to stay strong, or at least remember this communication and know what to do when you find yourself “desperate in the carpark” at the back of your venue.

If you are interested in working with your voice a little more and beginning to understand what you need to know to get your vocal chords up to a level where they won’t break down on you, then I recommend you make some time with Roger Love, either in person or via skype.

Our voice is our wand in everything we do and the stronger our voice and the stronger we can communicate, the more successful we are going to be.

The next 90 Days is going to be a bit rough for me as I adjust back to life downunder and get down to some serious work.

Throwing myself back into work is something I find works after these magical adventures “upover”.  I also know that putting some solid work into the next 90 days is going to make the first six months of 2014 look way different.

7 Things You Absolutely Must Know Before You Start To Record Videos

Video is very different to recording audios.  There is no where to hide!

I still have a lot of practice to do, but these are just a few of the challenges I’ve overcome to get a half decent product.

1.  Look Directly at the Camera

To get good contact with your audience you have to be looking straight at the camera – like straight down the lens or on a laptop you need to be looking at the lens not the green light beside it, otherwise you get a strange “sideways’ look about you.

2.  Avoid Jowls

To avoid looking all “jowlie” or like you have more chins than a Chinese phone book – make sure you are looking slightly upwards at your camera, not too far up though or they’ll be looking straight up ya nose 🙂

Also if you are looking down at the camera it gives the effect of “looking down” on your audience and we certainly don’t want that!

I find if the camera is just slightly above eye level, then it works really well.  In a weird twist if I sit my laptop on my Yeti microphone box on a dining room table – I get the exact right height.

3.  Don’t Move About Too Much

If you have expensive camera’s then you can move and sway as much as you like because they will self focus.  However, the tiny little camera’s in most laptops or iPhones can’t focus quickly and you keep going out of focus if you move too much.  Allow the camera to lock onto you and then stay as still as you can, while not appearing to “wooden”.  Use your arms and hands to get the movement …. that way you won’t look like a talking clothes peg.

Golden rule, in most instances of course is:  The better the equipment, The better the end product

4.  You Need MakeUp – Even If You Think You Don’t!

If you are a bronzed tanned beauty then by all means go ahead and roll cameras with just a dab of lip gloss.  But for an old gal like me with pasty white skin, well we need a lot of help.  I found a make up artist who specialises in video work and she was amazing.

She recommended a product called Kryolan.  I was surprised how much makeup I needed to wear to look like I only had a little bit on.  I was also surprised at the colours she gave me, that are quite gaudy and give you an eery resemblance to an Oompa-Loompa in normal light, but look fine once you look back at the video.  The Lip Gloss she recommends looks pink on camera but is a funny orange colour.  So I recommend you book in and have someone help you out if you are going to get serious about video.   Danni at Its All About MakeUp really helped me a lot.

I also met another great makeup artist, Julie from Sapphire Hair and Makeup on the Gold Coast.  She works a lot with photographers and does a lot of weddings so she is really versed in what works in the video field.  Never go to a big department store to get makeup advice.  What looks good in normal light can look really different under bright video lights.  Something Julie recommended to me was a lighter foundation that is used in air brushing.  I would never have got to that solution in a million years. but it’s brilliant.  You just apply it with your fingers and it’s very running, but gives great coverage with a much less “made up” look and a much lighter feel.   Plus it lasts for ages!  The product is called Elementwo Canvas Blend Foundation and you can buy that here.

5.  You Need Good Light

Thing is you just can’t film anywhere and get a good result.  I’ve found the more natural light you have in front of you, the better it is.  You can find me at new house sits wandering around doing test recordings with my laptop until I find the space with the best light.

Professional lights of course are best and not as expensive as you might think.  Friends sent me links to these light systems, one in Sydney Australia and one in New York, both of which will ship for under $250 and that includes back drops as well!

My colleagues son is into lighting and he said the bulbs you get with the kit from the New York company will make you look younger – I guess if you buy two kits you look twice as young!

Aussie Lights – here

New York (age defying) Lights – here

If you want a Lavalier microphone, I have the Rode lavalier – but should you wish to go to that level, you can get them drop dead cheap from Amazon here

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If you really want to bend your brain, Brendon Burchard, who has the ultimate set up, recorded this little video where he explains in depth how he gets his look and feel.  You don’t need all the hi tech stuff he uses, I’m told the cheap lite boxes will give a similar effect as his expensive ones.  You can also buy small HD cameras now that will do a great job with the right lighting, but get a geek talking about which camera to use and you’ll be here for days!  Once he starts selling Geoff Walkers program (which is now finished) he is done on the video stuff but up until then its pure gold.  Oh for the day when I have a whole apartment to create and play in!  Click here for the video

I’ve also found the little iRig Mic Studio to be quite good.  You’ll need a microphone stand to hang it above your head – remember sound rises.  When you see singers in a studio you’ll notice the microphone is always slightly higher than their mouth and they’re singing up into it.  That is because sound rises, but if your voice is strong enough you’ll fill the room and the sound will go into the microphone just fine.

Don’t forget any microphone you use will only capture what is coming out of your mouth.  The more you practice your vocal exercises and the stronger you make your voice, the more quality you will get in your recordings.  I highly recommend you have sessions with a reputable voice coach or you could get Roger Love‘s audio program and learn how to strengthen and protect your voice, in doing that you will naturally project more sound out of your mouth and into the microphone.  You will notice an amazing difference in what your voice can do it you do the exercises each day.

6.  You Need to Look Confident

OK – the makeup covers any zits or bits you don’t won’t the world to see.  But you must be upbeat and confident ….. whether you feel that way or not!

Droning on in a video just won’t work.  So you need to raise your energy and vibration.  Dancing like no one’s looking before you do your recording is one of the quickest and easiest ways to change your energy state and prepare you to record.  But it’s a personal thing so whatever activity vibes you up and makes you feel full of zest for life is the perfect things for you!

I’d estimate you need to be amped up to at least twice as perky as normal to look normal.

7.  Be Yourself – Everyone Else is Taken

Of course being you is the most important part of video because video more than any other type of communication will nail you as a fraud if you are pretending or are trying to be someone you’re not.

Funny thing, the closer I got to the camera, the more ME I became.   You find your truth in funny places, usually the places you’ve been avoiding the most.  I found filming from a distance didn’t work so well.  I had to develop a real heart connection with the camera, which is of course ultimately your connection with your audience.

So its very much about figuring out what is right for you and experimenting A LOT!

THEN PRACTICE A LOT!

Then once you get your clip recorded, well your problems aren’t over – then you got to load them to the internet and that’s a blog post for another day!  I recommend you start with YouTube because its just easier.

I’d love you to leave a comment below about your video experiences to date.

 

Blessing Food and Making It Even More Sacred

I had my Reiki Masters in residence this past week and I taught them how I bless my smoothies and juices, but you can use it for any or every meal.

There are many advantages to blessing food – it makes it taste better, but it also gives your body and cells permission to do good things with the food.  In this new energy everything vibrates the way we want it to, we just got to remember to ask!

I learned this process from Lee Carroll who channels Kryon.  I was sitting at Lee’s table at dinner during the Colorado training I attended and I noticed him actually holding his hands over his food and asked him about the process. He said with all the travelling he has done over the years, and he mentioned he’s been giving some pretty out there food choices in some of the more exotic countries, if he blesses his food, he never has tummy upsets.  So now he just blesses everything that gets put in front of him.

So I took this to heart and developed my own little blessing that I use when I remember to do it, but for whatever reason I always remember to bless my freshly squeezed juices.

This is what I say:

“I bless this juice and ask it come up to a vibration that will be best suited to cleanse, clear, tone, feed and nourish my mind, body and soul to optimum health and happiness at all times”

What do you do to bless your food or raise its vibration?  Add a comment below

Breakfast At The Gumboot Cafe
Doesn’t Get Much More Blessed Than A Breakfast at the Gumboot Cafe in Roberts Creek BC Canada!